Lifes not that bad, but I'm gonna bitch about it anyways....
Have you ever been wrong?
Published on December 5, 2004 By mada_ecks In Misc
I spend most of my time thinking about what could have been. I had a person, whom I thought was my friend, kinda' leave me out in the cold an I've been trying to figure out why. I always wondered if it was my fault that I don't keep in touch, but I can't blame her for not wanting to talk to me; I have changed some in the past few months. I become more irritable, more insensitve, and my patience is waring thin, almost like I've become a timebomb. I don't trust myself around the people I care about because I'm having this problem of being rude or saying hurtful things. I get this urge to do that, and it's almost like I don't care if I did hurt someone's feelings.

A few months ago, I came to an conclusion that I was going to be the worsed asshole to ever step foot on the face of the earth. Be someone that no one would want to be around. I had a wake-up call. I moved out of my apartment earlier this week, out from under my roommate who said that we were going to be friends for along time, now he hasn't called, and I think that this is the first in a long list of dissappointments. So I really don't care, but I don't want to be an ass. I just want to live my life and not have to worry about the drama that comes with a guy who can't go a day without talking to someone.

With all this being said, I've made post in the past about a friend of mine that, I thought, changed on me. I think i'm wrong but I'm not sure. I would like to think that she misses me as much as I miss her but I don't know. I feel like the relationship can't be the same as it was before, cause I've said some horrible things about her. But, as an adult, I realized that I made a mistake, but, I do think that I am intitled to an explanation or an appology. Because she was wrong too. But, i'm past the part of being angry, I just want to move on from this and forget the fact that I made a mistake.

Everyone makes mistakes, everyone wants to be forgiven, and everyone wants their feelings to be understood. I admit that I made some derogatory comments that I can't take back, but I'm am sorry for them. Then, I don't know, I'm sure everyone has had that one friend or that one person that they have alienated at one point or another, and can't make the things like they were before.

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on Dec 05, 2004
The most tragic thing in the world to me is that we can't undo the things we've done to hurt other people. Once something is said or done, it can't be erased and while we can throw a cloak of forgiveness over it, it will remain the in the room -- like some big clumsy piece of furniture covered in a sheet that we will always have to walk around to get from the kitchen to the living room.

Does she know that you're sorry that you hurt her?
on Dec 05, 2004
Not nice, It remembered me my ghastly past. I don't like friendships with women at all. Nevertheless, I wish you lucky.
on Dec 05, 2004

Once something is said or done, it can't be erased and while we can throw a cloak of forgiveness over it, it will remain the in the room -- like some big clumsy piece of furniture covered in a sheet that we will always have to walk around


great imagery mzw!  and when its dark, the damn thing casts scary shadows too. 

on Dec 05, 2004
and when its dark, the damn thing casts scary shadows too


Ain't that the truth.
hey kingbee -- if you're still around I just wanted to let you know that I just sent you an email.
on Dec 05, 2004

I just sent you an email.


you got mail too

on Dec 05, 2004
Texas Wahine is right. Once certain things are out in the open there is no going back so the only thing left to do is apologize, go foreward, and not repeat the same mistake. Sometimes a relationship is so damaged by what people say and do that there is no way to repair it.

"I become more irritable, more insensitve, and my patience is waring thin, almost like I've become a timebomb. I don't trust myself around the people I care about because I'm having this problem of being rude or saying hurtful things."

If you really feel this way then I would strongly recommend seeing someone about this. By doing nothing you will only hurt yourself...
on Dec 05, 2004

Reply #1 By: Texas Wahine - 12/5/2004 5:26:48 AM "Does she know that you're sorry that you hurt her?"

I haven't been able to talk to her, but I'm sure she knows. Anytime I've said anything uot of charracter, I've always appologized. I just don't understand how things got the way they did. Everything was great and then (BOOM) we weren't speaking. I'm trying to not let this experince get to me cause I've been through it before (to many times to remember), but this time since I'm older, I'm trying to not let it get to me. Most of the friends I hang out with don't ever bring it up, thus I don't think about it. But my roommate would bring it up all the time and to talk about it would piss me off.

Saying that I don't care and that I'm irratiable, my be an overstatement, It's just that. I really don't want to think about it right know. Because, when I do talk to her, I won't give of the vibe that I am bitter. So we could open up an have a good relationship again.


on Dec 05, 2004
Thank you guys for the advice, I think everyone goes through an experience like this. I'm just glad to see that I'm not the only one that has opened Pandora's box and not been able to close. But being able to go on, that's what I want to do. I would like some sort of closure so we both know that we're not mad at each other. Well, I think that she's moved on anyway, but I know her, I'm sure she still thinks about it as much as I do. I just want us both to let it go. So we could be friends again. I know things wouldn't be the same, but I just want to go on and forget.